I think you are doing fine. If I backtrack to the first time we met, some 9 months ago, your progressed very well in sexually provoking your husband in the bedroom, to provoking outside the bedroom at home, and now in public. I have to remind you that you are provoking his sexual senses in public, and he is responding. That’s what you wanted. Sure you are uptight about it as you are not used to being touched in public. That’s fine. You will gradually open up as he resumes his onslaught on you. And being surrounded by friends who are open about this makes it easier, or puts the pressure on you to move gradually towards their behavioural norms.
With your current mental attitude, the first thing you do when your husband pushes his hand between your thighs (in public) is for you to press your thighs together to block his entry. This is an immediate subconscious behaviour. What I ask from you now, is that, after you press your thighs together, you should “consciously” part them and give him a free hand to touch you between the legs. So you have to do it consciously, and I know you can. So next time you are with him, and your auto-immune reaction occurs (to close your thighs together) let your overt mental reaction lead to the parting of your legs.
From what you tell me about your four friends, I am sure at least one of them, provokes her husband in parting her legs, or with other body language to encourage him to flirt with her in public.
Take myself for instance. My husband is reserved. But I provoke him in public but especially when we are in the car. If he does not initiate touching me, I initiate it myself. I touch him. By the time we reach home, he is so worked out that he cannot wait to reach to the bedroom to have sex.
You have to loosen up. It would appear that you are exciting him, or exciting his mind, in public, and that is why he is making sexual overtures (in public).
It is one of women's favourite fantasies to watch her partner do another woman. But I do insist that she should be able to separate love from sex. A fantasy is different from reality. Good luck in your ventures and enjoy it.
I believe that girls are growing bolder and bolder with time. For an initiation to a women's residece to include "girlie" shows, or a Don sleeping with one of her residents, was unheard of 15 and 20 years ago.
It is not normal to think of your son. In your post you stress your son's penis as if it is his penis that you are craving for. You thought of "his penis ploughing her," not not of him ploughing her. This may lead me to believe that you are subconsciously desirious to have sex with a youth, with a boy. This I can understand, but to crave about your son should not be part of your thinking.
I do not have much information on you. Particularly your sex life. I suggest that you talk about sex with your husband and explore avenues that excite you with him. If this does not work, you can redirect your attention to fantasising about young men, boys, taking your mind off your son, or his penis.
Keep it up Stacy. You never told me if you work, etc... I am sure he does. I suggest that when you call him at work try a bit of soft and sexy talk, telling him what you are wearing for him and tellin him what you want HIM to do to you. This will give him ideas and encourage him to take more initiative.
Were he cybering with any other woman, and were he addicted to cybersex, then you have every reason to worry, but he was cybering with his own girlfriend. He has every right to do so.
Many believe that cybersex is best to stay as such and not progress to an actual encounter. In your case, it all depends on you and your girlfriend. You want it to happen. Does your girlfriend want this to happen? I am not sure if when you were cybering you saw one another on the monitor, or it was just a voice exchange. Since it is possible to actually see how each person looks like, then I would consider this an important step to do before meeting. The most important condition however, is that both of you and your girlfriend must be able to separate love from sex. You should be able to have sex just for the physical pleasure it and not associated with love. Normally a man can do this, but most women cannot. I presume that if the three of you meet, you will surely have sex with that person. How about your girlfriend? Will she have sex with the other woman? This has to be taken into consideration that when the three meet then the three have to have sexual contact with the other person.
A homosexual is a person that can fall in love with a person of the same sex. I do not think this is you. When a human being is very excited (and you were since you had a boner) he/she can accept sexual stimulus (touch) from either sex. So he masturbated you and you let him. Yes this is normal behaviour under the circumstances you were in. I hope this puts your mind to rest.
From your daily weather report I gather that your wife is flirtatious. She shakes her teats to you, a sign that she wants sex. She was also very frank in telling you what her friend did to her, and also thinking to arouse your sexual senses. So the thought of women together does excite you. I also think it excites her, though she did not divulge this to you ---so far. So your best bet is to ask for forgiveness and make an excuse that you were sexually so aroused that you sodomised her. Sure you exposed the anger in you, an anger masking sexual arousal. Maybe this way, she may be encouraged to forgive you and if her friend aroused her, then it shows that the issue excites you.
This post comes close to what I was saying. Subconsciously, or consciously, you like to think of your wife's sexual contact with her friend. Thik of it.
I do not think if you keep on fantasising you'll act on them. You say you have a crush. Crushes are short-lived and normally occur during our teens. If it is really a crush, it will go. Better to cater to a long-term relationship (a marriage) than to a crush. How is your relationship with your husband? Do you talk about your fantsies. Talking about fantasies can really help.
Surely these encounters make him a man. Having 2 maids instead of 1, makes him less vulnerable to be emotionally affected by any one of them. This is good. I also hope that he goes out with girls at school. I do not think you should worry about it. The only issue, is he practising safe sex?
You are really a brute. It is clear that your wife was subjected to an innocent happening, meaning that she did not plan this. She is not having an affair with her friend. This is clear from her behaviour. It is clear to me that she told you this in bed, as to arouse more your sexual senses, bearing in mind that most men like the issue of “lesbian sex.” And what did you do? You brutally sodomised her. It is good she did not kick you out of the house.
It is also clear to me that you are not so innocent about lesbian sex. The issue infuriated your sexual sense. Anger, infuriation, arousal, excitement, all of this lead to the same thing: animal sex. This means it excited you beyond no means ending with your sodomising your wife. Animal sex is fun and healthy, but you could have taken her anally but taking your time to let her mind and anus adapt to it. Reconsider your way of thinking and you’ll find yourself wanting her to tell you more about what happened.
The fact you mentioned the word “experiment” more or less automatically suggests that you are probably adventurous and the type of woman who can try things and then forget about them without affecting her future course of life. So whatever act you experiment in (girlie sex in this case) won’t affect your future.
There are no specific statistics on this issue, but a lot has been written in on by means of narratives, experiences, and accounts from professional practices. No, you do not experiment to avoid getting hurt by a male. But if you were hurt by a male, you can become emotional and indulge in girlie sex (but this is not experimenting).
I wrote on this before, here in this forum. Normally university girls are the most prone and open to indulge in girlie activity. Yes these girls are in their late teens and early ‘twenties. Girls entering university for the first time are opening a new page in their lives, considering themselves walking away from the protective home environment into the free world. With this in mind, they tend to be more adventurous and willing to try practically anything (experiment).
When I was at university, I knew a girl who indulged in girlie sex, bestiality, streaking, smoking weed, and having sex with 4 guys at the same time. She did all these, just to feel free and to experiment.
For your information, from what I read and from my practice, women who indulge in girlie sex for the pure physical pleasure of it (sex without love), tend to be or become more aggressive in bed, tend to take initiative in sex, all to the benefit of their relationship with their husbands or boyfriends. Women who have sex with women, subconsciously feel more feminine than those who do not.
When a woman is capable of separating love from sex, and when her relationship with her husband is very strong and they both want her to venture into having extramarital sex, normally the outcome and benefits from such encounters are significant.
Please tell us (to Richard) how long did the "courtship" period take (number of times you attended the pub).
Richard. I did mention that you should go slowly with this. It went too fast. Surely not the fault of your wife, but the young generation is too impatient. She got cold feet. I do not blame her. The environment is still very new to her. She has to adapt to the pub environment to feel at ease, and it was still too early from the third visit. She did touch the guy meaning that she was more than willing, but it was her first encounter with him and probably this is what scared her away. You mention that she did two of her piano students, but remember, she was at home, in her own environment. At home, she feels in control, but at the university it is an alien environment. From what I remember, also at home, there was a lot of preplanning for the event, so it did not happen overnight.
I am sure she continues to give piano lessons to individuals and she would surely feel more comfortable to have more encounters with current or future piano students. In any case, do not pressure her. She may decide to resume her venturing with university students but at her own pace.
