Antonia. Our sex life has been really energized with me taking the initiative and wearing stockings. He has started to take some initiative in pushing his hand between my legs knowing that I am wearing stockings. I have increased my supply of stockings buying different brands (not as expensive as Agent Provocateur). I have also bought a basque that accentuates my breasts and has suspenders for the stockings. I did wear the basque last night and he went crazy like an ape not knowing where and how to touch me. My sex life has changed a lot since I started posting and receiving tips from you. Thanks a lot.
Antonia. My husband finally made a move! I did purchase the Diabolo stockings and also Europa (whitish). I wore the Diabolo along with a somewhat conservative skirt. I sat down as usual in the TV room with my skirt inching up my thighs, but still decent. He sat next to me. I could see his eyes focused momentarily on my legs. Now this I planned! I started applying finger nail polish. After a while I started closing my thighs and rubbing my ass on the couch. He looked at me and asked me what was wrong. I told him it is itching down there and I cannot scratch myself as the nail polish has not dried. He was perplexed and then I told him “please scratch me.” I had to repeat it one more time and he pushed his hand between my legs. I had to tell him higher, higher many times. Then I sort of scolded him telling him “Good God, it’s my crotch Albert.” His hand still hidden underneath my skirt, he sensed I was wearing stockings when it touched the bare thigh. He looked at me surprised and excited as he pushed further up reaching my crotch. He stayed still and I scolded him one more time: “Please scratch me.” He started scratching my pubic area as if shy to reach my vagina. I started guiding him first telling him lower, lower till he touched my vagina (though my underwear). And I told him rub!! I kept on ordering him until I became real wet at which time I noticed the bulge in his pants. The rest, you can imagine ……..
PS I wanted to buy Agent Provocateur underwear, but they were so expensive that I decided not to.
Hi Antonia. Finally I managed to have my husband talk and show what he likes. He actually wants me to dress sexy, especially sexy lingerie that include stockings! I mentioned before that I dress conservatively. I do not know if you are familiar with the brand Agent Provocareur. I saw some very sexy stockings "Diabolo" black hold up. What do you think? Otherwise, I am still in full control of our sex life. You are right it takes time for him to change.
Antonia. Yesterday one of my good friends shocked me when she confided in me asking for advice. Her husband has been sharing her with one of his friends. This has been going on for at least one year. She says at first she really enjoyed the sex, but then she wants to stop it and she told her husband, but it seems of no use. She tells me they have sex almost every day with the other man. She is 28 and has been married for 3 years. She has one child. What is your opinion and what should she do?
I should start dressing more sexy. This will take time. I know he is attracted by women dressed sexy. I saw it in his eyes when I leaf through Elle and Vogue. You are right.
Antonia. Our sex life has become great! It is not how may times, but how good it is. For the past week we're having a sexual bang. I always initiate sex, talking dirty to him and he is enjoying it to the fullest. Every time I say a dirty word, I feel his penis pulsate in my hand or in me. I guess I am in full control. I recently confided to my best friend of the progress we made in sex. I told her about how you advised me on this board and so on. While she is very happy about our development she says I should also let my husband have control as it is the man's job to control. What do you think?
A lot of people doubt Antonia's existence, or accusing her of talking to herself. Well, I am sure I am one of many who are genuine. I had a problem and she suggested a soloution, and it worked. I am Stacy, and I am not Antonia, and this goes for many of us.
Antonia. We did it in the living room. I rode him to orgasm. It happened yesterday when we were watching an erotic movie I borrowed from a friend of mine. I first touched him and he had an erection. I told him I am very horny and needed "a fuck." He is not used to me speaking such language and he became stiffer. I pulled off his pants, and I straddled him and rode him like a bitch in heat, taking a pointer from you talking dirty while I rode him. It was explosive.
I am not sure whether he is passive or conservative. I feel he is more conservative. For years we make love in our bedroom under sheets. In bed he takes the initiative and he loves me, the traditional way, mostly in the missionary position and sometimes the side position. Now for the second time I initiate sexual contact outside the bedroom, and as you say he accepted it. So probably that's why you are saying he is passive. I shall continue to take the lead as you mentioned. Next time, I shall ride him.
Hi Antonia. Some more progress. Fast! He was sitting beside me looking (though shyly) at the recent Elle issue. I commented on a scantly dressed woman and how sexy she was. I put my hand on his crotch and he had an erection. While still holding on to the magazine I undid his pants. He did not stop me and then I sucked him! It took a while for him to come, some 15 minutes. My lips swelled! The strange thing is that we do not comment on it later, as if it did not happen.
Antonia. Yesterday when we were watching TV, there was an erotic love scene the movie we were watching. I got excited and I knew he was. I slid my hand over his thigh to his groin. His penis was hard. I squeezed it and massaged it through his trousers. He closed his eyes as if asking me to continue. I continued and he soon came. This is the first time we venture into something outside the bedroom. This is the first time I touch him when not lovemaking.
Antonia. I checked here and there and found nothing worth noting. I bought two of the mentioned magazines and put them on the table in the living room. I started leafing through Elle in his presence and stopped at those revealing photos. On purpose I made comments on those sleeky girls and I did see him look from a distance what was I commenting on. I did not start commenting on what I read in the thread. I should go slowly. By the way, the magazines have a lot of nice things to read.
I dress very conservatively. It is difficult to change, probably more fashionable. I shall look around in his personal effects to see if he has something hidden. I do not read any of the magazines you mentioned, but maybe it is about time that I did. I shall get a couple and put them where they can be seen. We do not talk about sex, but I think I can start talking about what I read in this thread.
My husband is very formal in bed. He removes his clothes, folds them and wants me to do the same, then we go under the sheets to have sex. Alright we have sex daily but he does it as a duty. He does not touch me, fondle me or anything close. I end up masturbating each time in the bathroom, as he does not want to see me doing so. I have all the love from him, but I want sex. We are 29 and have a boy and a baby girl. I read your comments in this thread and I gather you may be able to help. Antonia, what should I do?
