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It's just that in college, like someone else on here said, you're surrounded by young people your age, mostly everyone is single, and the only thing to do is hang out around campus with your friends or your friends' friends.

It was so easy to meet and date girls in college; you'd see some girl in class, then run into her again at some party, and just the fact that you shared a class and knew a mutual friend was enough to blow her away, start a conversation and score a girlfriend

But now that I've graduated and I'm back home, it's so hard to meet girls. I don't know that many people in my home town. There're no classmates, no parties to go to (and if there are, I'm not getting invited to them) no raging party goers who want to "introduce you to this chick" and so forth.

I only worked up the nerve to talk to this girl at a cafe a few weeks ago, and when I got her number and got a date with her, I was so excited, but she flaked a whole bunch of times and never called or responded to me again. The whole ordeal was a huge let down and very discouraging to me.

I always knew life after college would be tough; having to work, fewer nights to party and let loose, but I never thought I would have to face it alone. I don't even have the slightest prospect of a date now because I haven't met any girls except for that one flake since college.

I just want to know if there's anything to look forward to. Did anyone else have trouble dating or just meeting people after college? And will it get better?

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The big difference is that in college you see girls all the time, so you have a while to get familiar with each other before dating. Outside, except for your coworkers, you got 15 seconds to make the connection.

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It's all at the workplace now my friend.

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It's all at the workplace now my friend.

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And smart cookies do NOT date men from their work EVER.

You are supposed to find a mate during college - but no one tells you that. After college, you are expected to be in a pair, then get married, have the kids - that's how you socialize - with other couples, then with other families.

You have failed. Welcome.

TIP: I know people who met as 20-somethings while vacationing in Cancun... j/s

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It's all at the workplace now my friend.

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College, and be married by 25-26. Otherwise welcome to these boards. Fuck meeting someone at 40.

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College, and be married by 25-26. Otherwise welcome to these boards. Fuck meeting someone at 40.

People are burntout assholes by 40, no matter the conditions. They are not very tolerant any more.

I do know some happy couples who met later, 50s, 60s, often they are widow/widowers though, used to being married.

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I guess I'm stuck here then. :) I went to college at a local campus from my late teens to mid 20s (in a nearly all male major) and worked shift work full time.

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If you're looking for a fuck you can always go to the bar scene. If you graduated college then you are already too old for the club scene.

However, you will never meet a quality woman in a bar.

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Yup. Any "quality woman" is already married, or doing something more relevant. You can still find old or young tarts at a bar.

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I guess I'm stuck here then. :) I went to college at a local campus from my late teens to mid 20s (in a nearly all male major) and worked shift work full time.

Me too, join the club. I regret not socializing in college so fucking much.

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It's just that in college, like someone else on here said, you're surrounded by young people your age, mostly everyone is single, and the only thing to do is hang out around campus with your friends or your friends' friends.

It was so easy to meet and date girls in college; you'd see some girl in class, then run into her again at some party, and just the fact that you shared a class and knew a mutual friend was enough to blow her away, start a conversation and score a girlfriend

But now that I've graduated and I'm back home, it's so hard to meet girls. I don't know that many people in my home town. There're no classmates, no parties to go to (and if there are, I'm not getting invited to them) no raging party goers who want to "introduce you to this chick" and so forth.

I only worked up the nerve to talk to this girl at a cafe a few weeks ago, and when I got her number and got a date with her, I was so excited, but she flaked a whole bunch of times and never called or responded to me again. The whole ordeal was a huge let down and very discouraging to me.

I always knew life after college would be tough; having to work, fewer nights to party and let loose, but I never thought I would have to face it alone. I don't even have the slightest prospect of a date now because I haven't met any girls except for that one flake since college.

I just want to know if there's anything to look forward to. Did anyone else have trouble dating or just meeting people after college? And will it get better?

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Welcome to the real world. In college you are around a ton of pretty young girls who are competing for guys. After school that stops cold turkey. The girls never compete for guys until after age 30.
College is the last time of life for non stop parties, hangin out with friends, working out, and good cheap drugs. After that it is all work if you are a guy. At least that it what is expected of you. If you say fuck that, be prepaired for lots of alone time. The net has made it easier, but it isn't great.
No one told me this shit in school. I thought the opposite actually. I thought once I graduate, I would get the "job" I worked my ass off for in school, and have plenty of money (that I never had in school) to do cool things with all the chicks around.
Boy was I wrong. The "job" got outsouced or downsized multiple times, the women got FAT, I MEAN FUCKING HUGE, and the cool things I wanted to do weren't nearly as fun as hanging with friends, meeting young girls, drinking beer, smoking pot and playing old school videogames.

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Make $, become good-looking, move to NYC.

You'll be beating them off with a stick.

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Nice guys finish last!

That's what you get for doing the right thing and working while a student. You should have frittered away your time at parties!

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They don't teach you that in school.