Posted 10/22/2009 7:46 pm
Antonia. My son is 17. My sister recently told me that she found him shacking her housemaid, but she told me not to tell him anything. I also know that he is sleeping with our neighbor's housemaid. We live in a country where it is very common to have housemaids. Should I be worried? Should I tell him anything?
I had this fantasy. My wife was indifferent about it, but she welcomed it to have variety. We did it a couple of times and then the problems started. She found out that she does not love me any more and we ended up divorcing.
My hubby shares me with 3 of this friends. We'd meet on weekends the 5 of us, and have a bash. They work on me for not less than 2 or 3 hours, non-stop, until I cry "please no more." We do not have any children, but once we have them, we'll stop all of this.
I have a crush on my best friend who happens to be male. (I am a married woman.) I have wild fantasies about him where I'd be the aggressor and he'd initially be taken by surprised, then he'd welcome my advances. Sometimes, he'd turn away from me, but then the fantasy ends.
I feel that if I don't stop my fantasies, I'd eventually be emboldened enough by them to act on them!!
My body belongs to me and only me. It is not up to my husband to decide if he wants to share me with other men. But if he does want this, I do not see why we have to object. There is nothing like variety in sex, and there is nothing wrong with using my own body to please myself with other men or even women.
I am 18 and a college student. I live at the dorms. One of the orders I received during initiation week was to eat pussy and to satisfy the senior student (to make her cum). After exactly 18 minutes of eating her I made her cum. The same night she came into my bed and "fucked" me. Yes she fucked me like no other boy has done before. Two days later, my roommate who was curious about my experience, asked me to fuck her. I did. We now fuck each other almost every night. We both have boyfriends. Mine in my hometown which is only 35 miles away, and hers in the same college we go to. I know for sure that my relationship with her is purely physical and in no way is affecting my relationship with my boyfriend.
Posted 10/23/2009 8:31 am
It is 2:30 in the morning. It is raining outside with a temperature of 35. I could not sleep. We are still sleeping in separate rooms. I could not get rid of the thought that my wife's friend had sexual contact with my wife. It is preoccupying my mind. Still my wife won't talk to me. I can see that I did hurt her as she does seem in some pain when she walks.
I am curious. Was it your first sexual contact with a woman, when you had to eat her? I heard a lot about initiations at US universities. Tell me more about your initiation.
Talking about initiation at one of the college dorms, all first year students (at the dorm) had to masturbate in the presence of older students. There were about 22 of us girls masturbating! Very few managed to have an orgasm.
The fact you mentioned the word “experiment” more or less automatically suggests that you are probably adventurous and the type of woman who can try things and then forget about them without affecting her future course of life. So whatever act you experiment in (girlie sex in this case) won’t affect your future.
There are no specific statistics on this issue, but a lot has been written in on by means of narratives, experiences, and accounts from professional practices. No, you do not experiment to avoid getting hurt by a male. But if you were hurt by a male, you can become emotional and indulge in girlie sex (but this is not experimenting).
I wrote on this before, here in this forum. Normally university girls are the most prone and open to indulge in girlie activity. Yes these girls are in their late teens and early ‘twenties. Girls entering university for the first time are opening a new page in their lives, considering themselves walking away from the protective home environment into the free world. With this in mind, they tend to be more adventurous and willing to try practically anything (experiment).
When I was at university, I knew a girl who indulged in girlie sex, bestiality, streaking, smoking weed, and having sex with 4 guys at the same time. She did all these, just to feel free and to experiment.
For your information, from what I read and from my practice, women who indulge in girlie sex for the pure physical pleasure of it (sex without love), tend to be or become more aggressive in bed, tend to take initiative in sex, all to the benefit of their relationship with their husbands or boyfriends. Women who have sex with women, subconsciously feel more feminine than those who do not.
You are really a brute. It is clear that your wife was subjected to an innocent happening, meaning that she did not plan this. She is not having an affair with her friend. This is clear from her behaviour. It is clear to me that she told you this in bed, as to arouse more your sexual senses, bearing in mind that most men like the issue of “lesbian sex.” And what did you do? You brutally sodomised her. It is good she did not kick you out of the house.
It is also clear to me that you are not so innocent about lesbian sex. The issue infuriated your sexual sense. Anger, infuriation, arousal, excitement, all of this lead to the same thing: animal sex. This means it excited you beyond no means ending with your sodomising your wife. Animal sex is fun and healthy, but you could have taken her anally but taking your time to let her mind and anus adapt to it. Reconsider your way of thinking and you’ll find yourself wanting her to tell you more about what happened.
Surely these encounters make him a man. Having 2 maids instead of 1, makes him less vulnerable to be emotionally affected by any one of them. This is good. I also hope that he goes out with girls at school. I do not think you should worry about it. The only issue, is he practising safe sex?
I do not think if you keep on fantasising you'll act on them. You say you have a crush. Crushes are short-lived and normally occur during our teens. If it is really a crush, it will go. Better to cater to a long-term relationship (a marriage) than to a crush. How is your relationship with your husband? Do you talk about your fantsies. Talking about fantasies can really help.
